A young couple discovered they worked for the same company but received very different wages before they got engaged. After becoming engaged, the young woman wanted to quit her job, which made some people on social media believe she was a gold-digger. Her fiancé, though, contests that. On the AITAH subreddit, a thirty-year-old engaged man wrote a message pleading for advice about a difficult situation he was going through and felt terrible about. He explained that 2.5 years ago, during an event held in their shared office, he—a researcher for a major tech company—met his fiancée for the first time.

The original poster (OP), who was utterly captivated by the 26-year-old, extended an invitation to her. Their relationship is going well so far, and he appreciates the woman’s organizational skills. She works in marketing. Given that the woman’s job involved event planning and marketing and that she is an expert at both, he was pleased of her.

She occasionally had to work long hours because of her employment, even though his office desk job hours were more predictable and he rarely worked late. His fiancée frequently grumbled about how privileged he was while she had to travel to accomplish her responsibilities.

OP also revealed that he has attention deficit disorder (ADD) and struggles with basic activities. This is one of the reasons he loves her so much—she helps him with everything that has to be arranged. He reported that she was patient and making a lot of improvements in his life. They had their first financial chat when OP’s partner moved in with him. He was lucky to have a good benefits package, and even though she knew he was financially stable, she was surprised by his pay.

The realization that he makes fifteen times as much as she does startled him! Apart from providing living needs, OP recommended that she focus on saving money for her student loan, which she had delayed at the time. Although the Reddit user owned his apartment, his fiancée—who at the time was also his girlfriend—wanted to assist. They therefore allocated their expenditures according on the income of each individual. It was a good arrangement for OP because her partner is a self-sufficient and independent woman.

A month before his Reddit post, OP proposed to his fiancée. She has never before asked him for anything lavish, but this time she asked for a diamond engagement ring that would probably cost about $15,000. OP convinced him that it was worth it even though she felt uncomfortable spending so much money because she would wear the item for the rest of her life. He went on to explain that whenever she showed the ring to someone, she would constantly try to bring up the ring’s cost during the conversation.

OP did not like it and kept asking her to stop, but she did not listen. The day before OP wrote his article, OP’s fiancée urged him to sit with her on the couch so they could discuss an important topic.