Change in family dynamics can sometimes be as unexpected as it is challenging. When I first learned that my niece—who is also my biological daughter by way of a sperm donation—had begun spending more time at our house, I wasn’t sure what to expect. Ava, as she’s affectionately known, had initially visited only after school and on holidays.

Now, with summer break in full swing, she’s here from early morning until late afternoon. While she’s a wonderful, loving child, having her around every day turned our home into a constant gathering spot. My wife and I soon realized that this change in routine was affecting not only our space but also our children’s ability to spend time with their own friends.

After discussing the matter privately, we assumed our kids had taken the initiative to invite Ava over regularly. Instead, we discovered that she started following them home after school—and that our children themselves weren’t thrilled about having a “guest” around all the time.

They explained that while they enjoy her company occasionally, constant presence prevented them from inviting friends over or enjoying some independence. Together, we agreed that a more manageable arrangement—having Ava over about once every other week—would be best for everyone involved.