Last night, I used my girlfriend’s phone and saw an open article titled “Blowjob tips for small penises.” I laughed it off at first, thinking it was meant to improve our sex life. But later, I felt deeply insecure.

When I finally asked her if she thought I was small, she didn’t sugarcoat it: “You said it yourself—you’re on the smaller side.” She even admitted I was the smallest guy she’d been with, but quickly added I was “the best.” Still, hearing that stung more than I expected. I’m 5.5” with decent girth, but my tall, broad build tends to make it look smaller—and that’s always been a source of insecurity for me.

That night, we still had a good time, but I couldn’t shake the uneasy feeling. By morning, the distance between us lingered, so I opened up to her about how I was feeling. She apologized, but I’m still wrestling with it inside.

UPDATE:
Thanks so much for all the support. We actually ended things in February—not because of this, but on good terms. Since then, I’ve focused on myself: started therapy, hit the gym, and worked hard on building confidence. Now, I’m in a better place mentally and physically, and feeling genuinely hopeful about what’s ahead.